Getting Your Groove Back After a Medical Illness
You have endured arduous, painful medical treatments and have prevailed. You are ready to get on with your life, secure a long-lasting relationship, and get your groove back. But there is one major problem…your sex-drive has decreased drastically, you are experiencing vaginal dryness, pelvic pain, penile discomfort, erectile dysfunction, and impotence. Shame and embarrassment enter the picture; you feel less than and have no idea where to turn for answers. You are not alone!
Several Americans are in the same space and are often left to work through sexual dysfunction alone. If your concerns are not communicated, it can lead to self-esteem issues, relationship problems, and major depression. The primary concern of the medical team is to provide the best possible medical care to sustain life and potential residual effects of therapies are often not communicated to patients. Naturally, patients are also focused on living and are not considering or may not be aware of potential long-term sexual complications.
From my experience, individuals are often embarrassed and overwhelmed by their illness and all that comes with it. Individuals may not feel that they deserve to have a satisfying sex life. Others may feel that they received a second chance on life and they shouldn’t ask for any more than that.
You deserve a satisfying sex life!
Discussing your sex life can be embarrassing, but do not let shame keep you from rediscovering a satisfying sex life.
- Speak with your Primary and/or Specialist. Ask if there are any new treatments or options available.
- Join a support group.
- For loved ones, be patient with your partner. Understand that your mate has been through a rough time.
- Explore and discuss what first attracted you to your partner.
- Find other ways to express your love i.e. try a sensual massage, re-visit what initially attracted you to your partner, explore a pleasure shop.
If you need help on ways to share your concerns with your Physician or partner, have self-esteem issues and/or depression. Give me a call at 424-226-8052.
Disclaimer:
The recommendations listed above or general in nature. Therapy is catered to your specific concerns and issues. If you need additional education and support, give me for a call for a free 15-minute consultation at 424-226-8052.
Angela Bōdy, MSW, LCSW